A friend of ours invited us to attend the Scottsdale Healthcare Honor Ball on Saturday since her father is on the board of trustees and her mom is on the committee.

On Saturday all of the girls met up at the dry bar to get our hair done. No cuts, no colors, just blowouts with wash included all for $35! They even ask you if you want margarita or champagne which was also included in the $35. Nice deal, huh?

I love how it looks like a bar!

Even across the street there is minibar.ber.shop for guys where their deal is “get buzzed. $20 haircuts & $2 beers” haha, I love it. Rahul got his hair done there while the ladies were getting our hair done.

Anyways, we headed to Lindsay’s house to get ready and took some pictures before we left. I think we were the only ones that arrived in a SUV with 2 guys cramped up in the very back. It was so funny to let them out when we pulled up to the resort with valet parking.

It was a black-tie event so we all had fun dressing up and going together. The food was amazing especially their dessert. Tyler became obsessed with the fruit and asked our server where they got their fruit from. Amazing how everyone went out of their way to find out for Tyler, jeez. It turns out all the head chefs already left so Tyler was bummed to not get an answer.

This is how much fun we had!
We were probably the youngest people there with our own table since people had to buy tables to go to the honor ball.

Okay, so obviously this month has been the busiest month for me. My good friend who I grew up with came down to visit for a few days. We hung out, went shopping and got together with friends at an outdoor bar that had live music and it was really fun! We had a little reunion with some sorority sisters. It’s always fun getting together with the sisters that you know you share an unique bond with.

So yesterday was Missa Lee‘s last day at work as a single woman. She’s getting married this Saturday! I designed a wallpaper to put on her computer and another friend at work and I took her out to lunch at Sauce. She and her man will be going to Bora Bora for their honeymoon and can you tell I’m jealous? I’ve been dreaming of going there for years!

On a holiday note, I have been wanting to get reindeer antlers and a bright red nose for my car for years but they always sold out quickly that I could never get my hands on it. So can you imagine how friggin’ excited I was to find that Walgreens had “a lot” of them!? I was too excited that I put them on last night. So now pretty Carmella is a reindeer. She’s anxiously waiting for her other reindeer buddies to join her in the parking lot at work!

Sometimes it sucks having friends from all over the country.

I grew up in Seattle so I have friends & family there. Then I went to Rochester Institute of Technology in New York because of the deaf school they had there. It was a great experience meeting so many new deaf friends & being in a sorority. I’m a Sigma Sigma Sigma sister if you were wondering. I have no regrets of living in New York but 5 years for college was enough.

After graduation Tyler and I settled in Arizona and within the year we got married and bought a house. Not a lot of our friends are even married or own a house. This is where the differences come in.

A lot of our friends have been making plans to visit each other. I don’t mind that at all. I just wish that I could cough up extra money and go visit my friends but they all come from different states. I clearly can’t afford all of those trips.

It doesn’t help when I’m reminded that it is “my turn to visit”. I’m tired of having to explain many times why I can’t.

We have different kind of responsibilities: credit card payments, student loan payments, car payment and a mortgage to pay. I’m sorry if I’d rather save money to go on our honeymoon which we still haven’t gone on. Also it’s important that we have money in case something happens. Right now we don’t even have enough money saved to pay our bills if one of us lose our jobs.

Also there is just so much going on with my brother-in-law who has brain cancer and my grandma who has lung cancer. We need to make sure we’re able to go up to Washington when we need to.

Don’t get me wrong, I adore my friends and I don’t want to lose my friends at all. I would go visit them all in a heartbeat if I could. Everyone has different goals in life and how they want to spend their money.

I hope they can understand and wish I didn’t have to explain myself at all.

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